By EMMAH KIHIU
The student answering questions in class may have spent the night battling panic and anxiety. The one laughing with friends may be carrying the weight of unpaid fees, family problems or an uncertain future.
And the student who appears to be coping may be quietly reaching a breaking point.
Behind closed hostel doors, as most students are asleep,a different kind of struggle begins for some students. Some stare at their phones all night ,other lie awake worrying about the following day or problems they cannot bring themselves to discuss with anyone.
To a passerby, they may look like ordinary university students attending lectures, laughing with friends and posting pictures and funny quotes online, but beneath the smiles ,some are fighting battles that nobody sees.
University is often described as a period of freedom, discovery and new opportunities, but with academic pressure, financial difficulties and relationship problems, emotional distress and depression arise.
Most carry the distress alone with fear that if they speak out nobody would understand them better. Stacy, a fourth year student battling depression recalls, "I hadn't slept more than two weeks. My heart was racing constantly and I felt this crushing weight in my chest.
CATs had began, exams were approaching, my fees was unpaid ,I had no gatepass meaning I couldn't access the school.
There was no hope. Every time I thought about asking for help, I froze. I thought everyone else was managing and if I break it means I am weak or simply don't fit here,so I kept quiet."
Many students, despite the mounting challenges, do not seek help. For some, admitting that they are struggling is viewed as a sign of weakness. Some fear being judged by friends and family members but they do not realise that it's causing a damage in their mental health.
They may describe themselves as simply being tired ,stressed or sleepy and continue pushing through the problem until it becomes more difficult to manage. The silence carry a more serious consequence.
Students needs to understand that seeking help is not a sign of failure. A simple statement like "I am not okay "can be the beginning of getting support.
Most of the universities have guidance and counselling programmes that are accessible by all students and are confidential. Friends should play an important role by noticing when someone begins withdrawing or behave differently. Lecturers can create an environment where students feel comfortable discussing difficulties without fear of humiliation.
Seeking psychological support should be viewed same as treating a physical injury. Until the society and institutions prioritize wellbeing alongside academic achievement, the silent struggle inside the hostels and lecture halls will continue to demand our attention.
As universities prepare students for careers and professional life, they must also help them develop the support system and coping skills needed to face emotional challenges. Students should be encouraged to seek help and see asking for help as strength rather than weakness.
Some times the student who needs help most is the one who looks like they need it the least.
The Writer is a Fourth Year Student, Chuka University
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